THE HOLISTIC CONVERSATION with Tisha Morris
I’ve always thought that if I got a tattoo, it would be the word Trust, right on my forearm to remind myself daily. But then I started to wonder, trust who? God, myself, others? I realized trust is a tricky topic. Most of us find it difficult to fully trust the Universe or other people based upon past disappointments. But the challenge really comes down to trusting yourself.
When we don’t trust our self, it’s a form of self-betrayal. And that self-betrayal is mirrored back in relationships. If you’ve ever been or felt betrayed by someone, it started with you betraying you. When you don’t trust yourself, you betray yourself and therefore become a vibrational match to others doing the same to you.
Here’s another indicator of not trusting yourself: Have you judged people in your life for the choices they’ve made? I certainly have. I have judged their actions, why they have done the things they have done, and choices they’ve made. The opposite of trust is judgment. Anytime you don’t trust someone for the choices they make, there is an equal lack of trust within yourself.
We tend to measure whether we should trust those close to us based on our short-term gain in the situation. Trusting someone doesn’t mean their actions or words will go the way you want them to go. To truly trust someone is trusting that they are operating from their Highest Truth available to them in the moment. When everyone acts from a place of Truth, then everyone plays their part perfectly.
That being said, obviously not everyone is trustworthy. Betrayals happen. Contracts are broken. More commonly, people act from egoic desires without considering how their actions will affect others, even loved ones. But when you start to fully trust yourself, you will no longer attract untrustworthy people.
Trusting yourself is being completely authentic to who you are. The degree to which you are able to do that is a wide spectrum that attracts a like vibration – from seemingly innocent people pleasing behaviors to outright lies. The more you trust yourself, the more you will attract people into your life that do as well. You will find more integrity in all your relationships.
If you’re judging someone for choices they are making (most likely because they’re not in your favor) or feeling betrayed in some way, then take a moment and think about where you’re not trusting yourself. Where are you betraying yourself? Here are some subtle, but powerful examples:
–Not following your intuition
–Not honoring your preferences
–Being in denial or not facing the truth of a situation
–Not being authentic to your real desires
–Not being authentic to your voice in the world
–People-pleasing out of fear of abandonment
–Agreeing to something you don’t agree with
Ultimately, trusting yourself is being in tune and acting in accord with the divine guidance that comes from within, from your heart. When you start honoring your Truth, you automatically begin to trust yourself on a deeper level. This is foundational to self-love and that you can trust.
Tisha Morris is the best-selling author of Decorating With the Five Elements of Feng Shui (Llewellyn 2015), Mind Body Home: Transform Your Life One Room at a Time (Llewellyn 2012), Feng Shui Your Life: The Quick Guide to DeclutteringYour Home and Renewing Your Life (Turner Publishing 2010). Tisha is based in Los Angeles where she works with homes and business and facilitates trainings. To learn more, visit Earth Home with Tisha Morris.